You really want to do something, you don’t know what they will say, and you need or really want them to say yes

你真的想做點(diǎn)什么，你不知道他們會(huì)說什么，你需要或者真的想讓他們說是

This category of ways to ask for permission are more assertive than the ones before. Instead of relying too much on what the other person might think of you, you are instead pushing them a little to go along with what you say. Most people will agree with you if you ask for permission using these sentences because they show that you are committed to the ideas already.

這類請(qǐng)求許可的方式比以前更加自信。你不是過分依賴別人對(duì)你的看法，而是讓他們聽你的話。如果你請(qǐng)求允許使用這些句子，大多數(shù)人都會(huì)同意你的觀點(diǎn)，因?yàn)樗鼈儽砻髂阋呀?jīng)致力于這些想法。

Unless they have a specific and strong reason to say no, you will likely get your way. However, this does not mean that people will be happy about agreeing, or that people will respect your authority. These questions are best used when you are the boss, or you are the one who should be making all the decisions.

除非他們有明確而有力的理由拒絕，否則你很可能會(huì)得逞。然而，這并不意味著人們會(huì)樂意同意，或者人們會(huì)尊重你的。當(dāng)你是老板，或者你是應(yīng)該做所有決定的人時(shí)，使用這些問題。

I think I’m going to… Is that okay?

我想我會(huì)…沒事吧？

Saying that you think you are going to do something is a little gentler, and asking whether that would be okay is a great way to check what the other person will think of what you do. However, if you want to be more aggressive, you do not have to ask whether it is okay that you do something.

說你認(rèn)為你將要做某事是有點(diǎn)溫和，問這是否可以是一個(gè)很好的方式來檢查別人會(huì)怎么看你做了什么。然而，如果你想更具攻擊性，你不必問你做某事是否可以。

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I think I’m going to take my car to the shop tomorrow morning and then ride the bus to work. Is that okay? /I think I’m going to take two weeks for vacation starting next Monday. Is that okay? /I think I’m going to buy this piece of art for our living room. Is that okay? /I believe I will… Okay?

我想我明天早上開車去商店，然后坐公共汽車去上班。可以嗎？/我想從下周一開始我要休假兩周?？梢詥?？/我想我要為我們的客廳買這件藝術(shù)品?？梢詥?？/我相信我會(huì)…好嗎？

Believing that you will do something is a little bit more assertive and sure than thinking that you will do something. Asking for permission this way shows that you pretty sure about what you want to do, and in some circumstances, may not actually care what the other person thinks. Sometimes, because of how sure you may sound about your decision, this question may come off as a little bit rude. To avoid this, make sure the okay that you ask at the end of the question doesn’t sound like it was added on just so you don’t sound rude.

相信自己會(huì)做某事比認(rèn)為自己會(huì)做某事更有自信。以這種方式請(qǐng)求許可，表明你對(duì)自己想做的事情非常確定，在某些情況下，可能并不在乎對(duì)方的想法。有時(shí)候，因?yàn)槟銓?duì)自己的決定聽起來很肯定，這個(gè)問題可能會(huì)顯得有點(diǎn)粗魯。為了避免這一點(diǎn)，確保你在問題的后問的“好”聽起來不像是加上去的，這樣你就不會(huì)顯得粗魯了。

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I believe I will try to finish the project before I go to sleep. Okay? /I believe I will have more time to pick up the dry cleaning and stop by the grocery store tomorrow after work. Okay? /I believe I will be better off traveling to Japan and staying longer than trying to add in a trip to China or South Korea as well. Okay? /I will… Is that alright? (Or, is it alright to…)

我相信我會(huì)在睡覺前完成這個(gè)項(xiàng)目。可以？/我相信明天下班后我會(huì)有更多的時(shí)間去干洗店買東西。可以？/我相信我去日本旅行和停留的時(shí)間比去中國或韓國旅行還要長?？梢?？/我會(huì)的…可以嗎？（或者，可以…）

Similar to the above, asking for permission in this way shows that you have already made up your mind. If you add Is that alright? At the end, it shows that you are a little bit more sensitive.

與上述類似，以這種方式申請(qǐng)?jiān)S可，說明你已經(jīng)下定決心了。如果你再加上，可以嗎？后，它表明你有點(diǎn)敏感。

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I will buy the cotton candy you want from the online store. Is that alright? /I will take out the trash tomorrow, so put the things that you don’t need in there before then. Is that alright? /I will be in New York City the second week of July. Is it alright to stay at your house during that time? /What would you say if I…?

我會(huì)從網(wǎng)上商店買你想要的棉花糖?？梢詥?？/我明天會(huì)把垃圾拿出來，所以在那之前把你不需要的東西放進(jìn)去?？梢詥幔?七月的第二周我將在紐約。在這段時(shí)間呆在你家可以嗎？/如果我…，你會(huì)怎么說…？

Out of all the ways to ask permission in this blog post, this is the one that is the most assertive. While this question does not outright say that you will do what you are thinking of doing regardless of what the other person says, it does show that you have already strongly made up your mind in favor of whatever it is that you want to do. You likely will not change your mind, even if the other person has something important and useful to say. Instead of asking permission, sometimes this question is used to warm someone up to the idea of something that you have already done. If someone asks you this, you can be suspicious about whatever idea they ask you about.

在這篇博文中，所有的請(qǐng)求許可的方式中，這是自信的一個(gè)。雖然這個(gè)問題并沒有直截了當(dāng)?shù)卣f，不管對(duì)方說什么，你都會(huì)做你想做的事，但它確實(shí)表明，你已經(jīng)下定決心支持你想做的事。你很可能不會(huì)改變主意，即使對(duì)方有重要和有用的話要說。有時(shí)候，這個(gè)問題不是征求別人的同意，而是用來讓別人對(duì)你已經(jīng)做過的事情產(chǎn)生好感。如果有人問你這個(gè)問題，你可能會(huì)懷疑他們問你的任何想法。

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What would you say if I sell my car and commit to using only rideshare apps when I need to get around? /What would you say if I dropped out of college to try out this idea that I have? /What would you say if I told you all that we would not be giving out Christmas bonuses this year because our company needs the money to invest somewhere else?

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